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 "Making Me Happy" 
Close your eyes, What is Happiness? Waking up in the morning with the feeling it’s great to be alive. How do I find Happiness? Not by buying a new car, new house, having a new job or getting a new image. Happiness is a skill. Just like riding a bike. You can learn to be happy. How? By understanding that the past programmes the present to affect the future. What can I do about it? > Appreciate that your past influences how you define “happy”. > Recognise the programming and replace it. > Learn strategies to counteract the old voices and self dialogue and replace them with new ones. What will this give me? > Good communication skills. > Improved self belief and confidence. > Richer personal relationships. > Hope, joy, enthusiasm, optimism and fulfilment in life. > A reason to look forward to each day. > The energy and desire to design your own future. When the past no longer programmes the present. you are free to be HAPPY So you will wake up in the morning feeling it’s great to be alive! Two reasons as to why I want to teach people how to be Happy! First Reason I saw a young man in his last year of ‘A’ levels two and a half years ago. He came to see me because he was feeling depressed and his mum didn’t know what to do. She thought it could be to do with the loss of his father just before he was born. While I was speaking to him he kept looking at the floor. It seems that even though he chose his ‘A’ levels he wasn’t really interested in them. In fact he seemed to spend more time away from school than at school and was behind with his work. This was the reason why he was feeling depressed. He said it was all too much and he didn’t want to catch up but leave school. I asked him what he liked doing. He said ‘surfing’. I then asked him to tell me what it was like surfing and take me through all the steps. I also got him to tell me what it was like standing on the surfboard with the waves coming at you. That young lad then became alive and excited. While he was in that excited state I asked him to tell me what he wanted to do with his life. He said all he wanted to do was to surf. I said there was a surfing degree but that to get on it he would have to work hard and either have to do an access course or finish his ‘A’ levels. He chose the access course and said he would get himself a job until he could get on the course, which he did. He came from a loving family and a caring school but no-one had ever managed to get him so excited and passionate about something he believed in. When I did this, that then gave him the confidence to tell me what he really wanted to do. Second Reason I saw Oscar, a man in his middle 50s, two and a half years ago. He came because he was thinking of retiring. When Oscar came he was tired and exhausted. He had done what people wanted him to do all his life. In his job he was head of Health and Safety Executive. He was an extremely intelligent man who kept me on my toes. A ‘defining moment’ for Oscar was when he was 17 and he had an interview at Art College. He told them he wanted to be a photographer and was told that he was too intelligent to be one and that he should study and get a Law Degree and become a Solicitor, which he did and hated it. He then studied for a Psychology Degree and ended up working for the Civil Service, which he did for the rest of his life, disliking himself and his job. Whilst being coached Oscar decided to take early retirement. He did this in January 2006. For the next 9 months he had a fantastic life – he began to realize that he was a very creative and intelligent man. He learnt to express how he felt and was able to get close to his daughters. He cooked and had dinner parties in aid of St. Luke’s Hospice and became their volunteer tea boy (which he loved). He signed up at Art College to take their Interior Design course and was going to design interiors for his friends who would give money to St. Luke’s. The month he was due to start he had a heart attack and died. I was asked by his daughters to speak about their dad at the funeral service, it seems that I knew more about him than his family. I didn’t want Oscar’s death to be wasted! So I wrote ‘The Work You Are Born To Do’. I want to give everyone the chance to find out what it is they really want to do with the rest of their life. Find out more: Why not contact us by clicking here. 
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